What Is True Love??

My friend ever said to me, “Yes I love him. I love him more than anything else in this world and there is nothing that I would like better than to hold on to him forever. But I know it's not for the best. So no matter how much my heart is going to break, I've got to let him go so he can know just how much I love him. Maybe if I'm lucky, he'll come back, but if not, I can make it through this.”

Hmm, is that called True Love? Maybe yes, maybe no… So, what’s true love then? True love is unconditional love. That’s not just limited love to mother and God. Ordinary human can do it too… but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. True love is forever. Why then do half of the marriages in the world end in divorce, and why are so many couples always breaking up? Simple, they don’t know true love.

Unconditional love is when you love someone not for certain aspects of them that can change, but you love them for their innermost essence… Their soul even, if you will. Unconditional love is when you still love someone no matter how much they change, no matter how ugly they become, and no matter how many stupid things they do or how much they may hurt you. Unconditional love is something that perseveres even when it may hurt you or when it seems to go completely against your own best interests. So, yeah, it’s not for the faint of heart. It takes true courage to love even just one person unconditionally, and that’s something which is not a lot of people have.

So, most people in relationship don’t really love each other. They might think they do, but for the most part they’re just infatuated or horny or lonely. Most relationships are based on someone’s needs. They either need “someone to be with” or they need someone to have sex with or something. There’s always some kind of an outcome that they want… The love isn’t its own reward.

True unconditional love doesn’t need a relationship to thrive, and it doesn’t need any kind of outcome whatsoever. Just to be able to experience unconditional love is its own reward.

Commonly modern romantic relationship is actually very limiting with regards to true love. Jealousy is a commonly accepted as a feeling, it’s considered normal. But jealousy and true love don’t actually get along together at all. If you truly unconditionally love someone, why would you ever feel jealous if they spend time with other people, or even if they love other people besides you? You just wouldn’t, because love is a good thing, and therefore more love can only be better. And if spending time with other people makes that person happy, then that makes you happy too because you enjoy seeing that person happy. Jealousy is actually quite insane when you think about it like that. It’s quite incompatible with true love.

But that doesn’t mean that if you ever feel the slightest hint of jealousy, that doesn’t mean you don’t truly love the person. You could just be having a moment of weakness… as I said above, unconditional love isn’t for the faint of heart, and it takes a lot of courage to keep it up. You’re only human, and nobody is perfect… I doubt anyone on this planet is 100% capable of unconditional love anyway. But it’s worth it to see how close you can get because it is really one of the most awesome things you can do or experience.