I BELIEVE WITH WHAT I HAD CHOSEN!

one thing that make me very depressed is when my big family cannot accept my mate for unacceptable reason ( I think ). what they want is only a partner/mate that equal with me, someone whom they called 'high-class'. 
I know in this life we cannot live only with LOVE, but we also need money. I realize that. but they cannot put it as a main reason to force me to find another guy.
I realize it.. really realize.. I admit it, that I was looking for a guy who had a complete criteria for an ideal guy, the important things we search in every guy seed, environment, weight, in Indonesia we called it, 'bibit bebet bobot'. but once I have a guy who can make me feel comfort and safe around him, those criterias was gone. I know those criterias that can guarantee a prosperity in my future, but that's not come first anymore. prosperity is not always measured by those criterias. though he doesn't come from a rich family, his level is below me, but as long as he can lead me to the right direction and he can make me a better person than before, I think that's enough. level can grow not only by education, there's many ways to make it to be 'high-level'. 
so in this point, I just wanna say that we have to believe of what we've decided. do not bother of what people say or think. maybe they're right, cuz they wanna see us happy. so perhaps you have to listen to them, then filter it which one is good for you, and which one is not.
my decision right now is I BELIEVE WITH WHAT I HAD CHOSEN!

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A heart that once was broken
Now can finally fixed.
A person once alone in life
Now I can call my love.

Dreams that once were longed for
Are now all coming true.
The love I thought was gone
I have now and forever in you.

But even though "I Love You"
can't express the depth
of my feelings for you.
I hope you know what's in my heart.

Because loving you
means more to me
than anything in the world
and it always will.

I Miss You

Where are you tonight my love?
What is it that you do?
It's true my heart is torn apart
When I'm not with you

I give myself with all my heart
I'm yours for all of time
Your slave, your queen, your anything
only say that you are mine

I give life to the feelings
I'm longing to express.
I give myself completely,
my heart belongs to you

You are the perfect person
to compliment my life.
there will be no brighter day than
when I become yours

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If you could see inside my soul
see inside my heart
you would know how I long for you
whenever we're apart

If you could see inside my head
if thoughts were things to see
you would know how I cherish you
how much you mean to me

I could search the whole world over
and this I know is true
I would never find another love
like the love I found with you

So if you could see inside my head
if thoughts were thing to see
you would know I blessed I feel
to have you here with me

Sucks!

no words to say, no thoughts to think
just tears to cry and the feeling of letting my heart sink
thanks for turning my gold heart
into an empty hole, blank, and cold
i really hate you, I don't know what to say
i just don't know if I can go through like this every day
faking a smile and a feeling of cheer
when really I don't know why I'm even here
you keep bringing me up to crush me down
while turning my smile into a frown
i think I fell in love with you just by your luck
because honestly, you are really sucks

The One You Adore

it supposed to be like every other hurt
where everything would be alright
but somehow I felt this was different
cause to you my heart held on so tight

every time i think of you
i know i already lost
you're great and you're perfect
but i love you no matter the cost

i’m willing to stand through the pain
leave everything behind and be showered in rain
even if you don’t feel the same way
i’ll always be beside you, night and day

maybe it was wrong to love you so much
so much that i don’t care anymore
and the biggest hurt that I felt
was that i knew i will never be the one you adore

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i've been living my life alone
trying to get you out of my life
but after all this time
i can't help myself but miss you

you're once a dream that came true
an illusion that turned to reality
but suddenly, things turned differently
the way they used to be
until such time i have no choice but to let you go

you're the reason for my sleepless nights
because you keep stayin' on my mind
i can't help myself from crying
because i'm missing you so much

all the pain and sadness are bound inside my heart
all the memories are still preserve in my mind
i miss you so much
i can't hide the fact that i still love you

my life will never be the same again
since you're gone
i'll trapped in this loneliness
forever...

What Is Love??

when love has come
but soon is gone
it begs the question
was it there?

the love was lost
and never found
lost without you
lost into eternity

was it love or just a feeling?
was it love or just healing?
healing from the hatred
the hatred of our hearts

our past was deep and full of pain
we needed this to release the stain
for this I do not regret
the time with you that I had spent

Forgive Me

I loved you more than I have ever known

Those starry eyes

Those tender lips

You made my heart melt

Then boil into a roaring fire

I now know

What my eyes could not see

You are the only one that is for me

Many nights those tears flew

Being myself without anyone

Anyone to care about the thoughts

Looking at the sky and knowing

Many mistakes I had

Many mistakes I have had

6 Kebiasaan Yang Merusak Kulit Kita

Siapa sangka sering berlama-lama menelepon pacar atau meninggalkan kacamata saat mata minus ternyata bisa merusak kulit kita? Agar tak menyesal di kemudian hari, hentikan enam kebiasaan buruk berikut ini.

1. Bertelepon terlalu lama
Ponsel kita biasa ditaruh di dalam tas (yang bagian dalamnya pasti penuh debu), di atas meja, atau di tempat-tempat lain yang tidak steril. Menelepon berlama-lama menyebabkan kulit pipi bersentuhan dengan ponsel yang penuh bakteri tersebut. Pastikan Anda menyimpan tissue basah antibakteri untuk mengelap ponsel sebelum Anda menggunakannya.

2. Mengabaikan kacamata

Job Interview Tips

An interview gives you the opportunity to showcase your qualifications to an employer, so it pays to be well prepared. The following information provides some helpful hints.

Preparation:

• Learn about the organization.
• Have a specific job or jobs in mind.
• Review your qualifications for the job.
• Be ready to briefly describe your experience, showing how it relates it the job.
• Be ready to answer broad questions, such as "Why should I hire you?" "Why do you want this job?" "What are your strengths and weaknesses?"
• Practice an interview with a friend or relative.

How to Rekindle A Long Term Relationship

A happy, long-term relationship is great and something we all want. However, even the best and happiest long term relationships can suffer from routine sex.

The sex might be good, but it is not what it used to be nor is it everything that it could be. While you might be content, what you really want is a way to spice things up and turn your good sex life into a fantastic sex life – and keep it that way.

Be Spontaneous
If you want it, do it. I don’t mean drop whatever you are doing and have sex wherever you happen to be when the urge strikes you – that might be inadvisable, particularly if you happen to be in public, or surrounded by children.

Instead, let sex sometimes take priority over other trivial things that you normally would want to get done first. If you can afford the time, be ten minutes late to work because you were having a morning quicky. If you are cleaning up, watching television, or paying bills stop what you are doing, put it out of your mind and give into your desires.

If it can wait – and most often it really can – then let it wait.

Lust or Love

Lust is always mistaken as love. Lust is passion. Lust is desire. Lust is therefore not love. It can be difficult for the inexperienced to distinguish between the two emotions. Especially, in the beginning of a relationship when sexual feelings are stronger.

Love
Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.
Lust
And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.
It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.

Signs That He's Not Your Mr.Right

After enduring weeks of single girl sympathy, you finally agreed to let your cousin set you up with that "great guy" she knows. Since you said yes, you figure you might as well make the most of it and keep an open mind. But, just in case, you ask your best friend to call your cell about a half hour into the date so you can fake an emergency if needed.

Actually, it's not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend's call saying, "Oh no! That's terrible! I'll be right over."

He's Late

This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn't have enough enthusiasm for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn't expect to be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times when you just can't help it, but he'd better have a good reason if he shows up at your door even 15 minutes late.

He's Not Dressed to Impress

You've spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he's washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he's dressed for a monster truck rally.

He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally

Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there's bound to be trouble.

The fact that he didn't bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker's thoughts on the plan) doesn't bode well for how he's going to respect your needs and wants in the future.

He Expects You to Pay
It's not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it's chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there's nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course).

No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn't give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won't see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date.

He Talks About his Ex
So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.

If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn't call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It's not a good sign if he can't say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship.

How Can I Put This? He's a Weirdo.
Yes, it's time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored.

Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours
When he's not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It's normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can't think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it's time to call it a night.

If it's twenty minutes in and you've run out of things to talk about, you probably don't have much of a future together.

The Power of Thinking Positive

Step 1: Admit You Are Negative
The first step to changing your life is to admit that you are negative or that you have negative thoughts. Whether talking about a coworker behind his/her back or believing you "can't" do something; these contribute to a non-healthy lifestyle.

Step 2: Be Determined to be Positive
Once you've admitted you are negative, or at least have some negative tendencies, you can resolve to changing the way you think. Become conscious of your daily thoughts and when a negative thought enters your mind, quickly turn it around. Instead of "I don't think I can do that," think "I love a new challenge and will conquer this one" or "I can do this no matter how hard it is." Instead of "I'll do this later," think "By getting this done now I can have it accomplished." Eliminate words like "can't" from your vocabulary and replace them with "can". Start to say positive things about other people. Start to think positive things about other people. "Wow, that was really nice what he/she did." When presented the opportunity to comment on someone else, refrain from saying anything bad.

Signs That Your Boyfriend Will DUMP You!

When a relationship ends, we tend to wonder where it went wrong. Were there any warning signs that he lost interest? YES. But you were so wrapped up in the relationship or with other things that you didn’t even see it coming. Here are eight warning signs he is no longer interested... or maybe these are how you are acting. Either way it is time to take a closer look at your relationship and decide whether you want it or not.

Warning Sign #1: He hasn’t called you for a few days
This isn't necessarily a sign that it is over, but if you are use to him calling frequently then there is something wrong.
Warning Sign #2: Picking fightsDoes he fly off the handle more than usual? Is he causing arguments over stupid little things? This is often a bad case when people are no longer interested in a relationship but they don’t want to be the one to end it. Don’t beat about the bush. Ask him out right if he is no longer interested in the relationship.

How to Know If Your Lover is Cheating

I think almost everybody could agree with me on this one: The only thing worse than finding out that your spouse is a cheater is not knowing. Not knowing if your partner is faithful can eat away at you and cause pain that can last months or even years. Betrayal is the worst form of disrespect and can leave wounds that won’t heal for a long time, if ever. Before we dive into sneaky ways that you can catch your partner red handed, lets first discuss why people cheat. I have often thought to myself, Why is it that animals are able to stay faithful to each other for a lifetime, while many humans can not seem to handle this task for more than a matter of months? The fact is that humans are the only creatures that realize they have a choice to how many partners they chose to have at a single moment in time. In addition, in recent studies, scientists have found that males with higher than average testosterone levels may be at greater risk of being involved in extramarital affairs than males with low testosterone levels. However, unlike animals, we have the ability to make decisions. We are able to override these hormones at any given time. Still, many chose not to. Testosterone or no testosterone, I still think cheating ultimately has to do with unhappiness. And, due to our ability to make decisions, those who chose to cheat go to great lengths to hide their affair. This is because they know what they are doing is wrong. This is why people who are cheaters are often hard to catch. So on that note, here are some potential signs that your partner may be cheating:

Love Sick on a New Romance

It doesn't get more unstable than this. You feel sick, you can't eat, you don't know what you are thinking and feeling, but you are thinking excessively. You feel happy, you feel sad, you feel unsettled, you worry, you are ecstatic. You want to panic and wish you had said no. What's happening to you? You are in your first four weeks of dating someone.

The first thing that can happen with a date is that you feel trepidation before the event. You may have had lots of dates and expect little but are pleasantly surprised. You may have been building up to the date and its gone really well and you are surprised, pleasantly. You may actually feel unhappy and irritated that a first date went well because now you have to give some thought to the situation. Initially then you need to decide if you are going to take it further or whether last night's promises and optimism has changed in the cold light of day. For almost everyone, however good or bad you will feel some trepidation, even if you are walking on the moon.

How to Overcome Jealosy in Relationship

Jealousy is a human emotion that we all instinctively experience at some point in our lives. Jealousy can refer to a strong desire for or envy of someone else’s success, stature, or possessions.

Taken in a social context, it can refer to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality. Jealousy may cause someone to be doubtful of his or her partner and feel threatened by his or her interaction with certain people. It involves a fear of losing the other person.
There are different kinds of jealousy and educating yourself on them may help you and your partner develop a stronger relationship.

Healthy Jealousy 
Jealousy doesn’t necessarily indicate negative connotations in all cases. After all, it is quite natural for men and women to be protective and possessive of the one that they love. In a relationship, when feelings of jealousy are mild and occasional, it reminds the couple not to take each other for granted. It can encourage couples to appreciate one another and make an effort to ensure the other person feels valued.

Having reservations about your significant other going to a strip club, the sight of him or her drooling over an attractive person of the opposite sex, or witnessing him or her flirting with someone else are innocent examples of how jealousy can be a perfectly normal reaction.

Destructive Jealousy
Sometimes, jealous feelings can balloon out of proportion. It is a completely different story when jealousy becomes frequent, intense, and irrational. Once you reach this stage, you obsessively begin to question your lover’s loyalty to you and it sends you into a blind rage. You may even try to restrict your partner’s interactions with other people and constantly monitor where he or she goes and what he or she does.

If you can’t control your jealousy, it is bound to be detrimental to your relationship. It eats away at the most important thing holding it together – trust. It can leave your loved one constantly feeling like they are walking on eggshells.

If you find yourself drifting into the realm of harmful and unhealthy jealousy, there are things you can do to prevent it from ruining your current and future relationships.

Identify the Root of the Problem
What is causing this unfounded jealousy? You may behave this way because you have been cheated on in the past. This may cause you to be more possessive and controlling in a new relationship for fear of repetition, even if he or she has never given you a reason to be doubtful.

If this is the case, it is important to deal with these feelings and insecurities before you enter a new relationship. Harboring unresolved feelings from past relationships is a sure sign that you aren’t ready for a new one.

Give yourself a Reality Check
Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening. How realistic is the threat? What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? Distinguish fact from fiction.

If you have no solid grounds for feeling jealous, your false accusations will cause a lot of unnecessary strain on the relationship. Don’t let your imagination draw a negative picture of your partner.

Positive Self-Talk
Sometimes, you need to give yourself a pep talk. When you start feeling those twinges of jealousy, remind yourself that your partner loves you and is committed to you. Realize that he or she is with you for a reason. These self-affirmations can help you boost your confidence.

Seek Reassurance
If you can’t talk yourself out of a jealous funk, perhaps communicating your feelings will help resolve your insecurities. One of the best ways to beat jealousy is to ask your partner for reassurance. Make sure you don’t take an accusatory, nagging, or bullying tone with him or her. Instead, share your feelings of doubt and ask them to help you overcome them.

By communicating your feelings, you can work out solutions together.

Get an Objective Opinion
Ask a close friend to take note of your behaviour around your boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, you aren’t fully aware of your actions, especially when emotions like jealousy cloud your judgment. By getting a neutral party’s perspective, it can help you fully understand the extent of your actions.

A good friend will let you know if your behaviour is out of control and destructive.

Set Boundaries from the Start
Try establishing some general guidelines at the beginning of the relationship. Let your partner know what is and isn’t acceptable for you. Be careful not to use this piece of advice as a means to control your boyfriend or girlfriend, just let him or her know what makes you tick.

For example, how far is too far when it comes to flirting? Telling your partner what makes you uncomfortable can also help you trust him or her more since you are divulging sensitive feelings.

Things that Kill Relationship

Not Listening

Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.
When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.

Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.

True Love or Fake Love??

Finding out if what you have is true love can be tricky. Feelings must be analyzed before they can be identified for what they truly are. The best way to find out how you really feel about someone is to sit down and dissect the relationship.

Signs Of Not Real Love
Possible signs that it isn't true love is you...

• think of your partner as absolutely perfect
• are concerned with your needs first
• need to spend all your free time with your partner

Kulit Cerah Tanpa Kosmetik Mahal

Percuma saja menghabiskan ratusan ribu rupiah untuk produk pencerah kulit jika tak melakukan perawatan dari dalam. Dengan nutrisi yang baik, kulit jadi sehat dan otomatis terlihat lebih cerah. Makanan apa saja yang wajib dikonsumsi supaya kulit tak lagi gelap dan kusam?

1. Jeruk
Semua jenis buah jeruk, termasuk jeruk bali, merupakan sumber vitamin C yang memiliki banyak manfaat untuk kulit. Vitamin C meningkatkan produksi kolagen dan elastin dalam tubuh kita, yang berfungsi untuk mengurangi kerutan dan menghambat penuaan kulit. Ia juga dipercaya dapat memperlambat produksi melanin, pigmen yang membuat kulit terlihat lebih gelap. Usahakan mengkonsumsi jeruk segar satu kali dalam sehari. Selain jeruk, tomat juga merupakan buah yang kaya vitamin C.

2. Sayuran berwarna merah dan hijau

LAMPARD: TEN YEARS AND 100 PER CENT

Posted on: Sun 14 Aug 2011

It is 10 years ago this month that Frank Lampard began his first season for Chelsea.

As he looks to hit the ground running at Stoke today, he can do so in the knowledge that the teams he has been in have a good record of doing just that. His very first game in blue was indeed the last time Chelsea failed to win on opening day. In August 2001 we drew 1-1 at home to Newcastle.

A decade on, the vice-captain is looking forward to the challenge of doing better than on that debut day.

'I am feeling good,' he said. 'I have enjoyed all ten seasons I have done and I am looking forward to the 11th, having missed a big portion of last season and the team having not won any trophies.

I'll Be Fine

If you can't forget her
that would be fine
If you won't forget her
that would be fine also
But,
If you still love her
then leave me
Cuz I'll always be fine
with or without you

As If

Let’s play ‘as if’

As if you like me,

What would you do to make me feel the same?

As if you want me,

What would you do to make me yours?

As if you love me,

What would you do to prove it?

As if your past come back to you,

What would you do to her?

As if your past want you back,

What would you say to her?

As if you still love her,

What would you do to me then??

Try To Let You Go

I just want to know bout you closer

But I don’t expect to hear you past romance

Though I’m a bit curious, but it hurts me a lot

To hear that you and her were so close

And people keep saying that I look like her

Is it that so?

If it is that so, it means you’re not pure to me

You choose me because I look like her??

I really don’t expect that

I want you choose me because who I am

Accept all my weakness

If you still keep thinking of her

And all we did together remind you to her

I think we should end this up

Though I know I start loving you

But the more I love you, the more I should let you go

Before it’s too late for both of us

But don’t know why I can’t let you go

It’s hard to try to let you go

I Never Thought I'd Fall in Love with You

I never thought I'd fall in love with you

I thought someday, of course, I'd fall in love

But what it felt like, I just never knew

I'd no idea what I was thinking of

And then, somewhere between my need and pleasure

Walking neither overjoyed nor sad

I looked into my heart and saw a treasure

Worth more than anything I'd ever had

Ah! This is love! I thought. And then I wanted

To give my life to see your happiness

Suddenly, from nowhere, I was haunted

Needy, joyful, tearful, glad, obsessed

My love for you has brought me out of me

The beauty in your heart has set me free

Bangkit Pasca Putus Cinta

Putus cinta tak pernah menjadi pengalaman yang menyenangkan. Terkadang banyak orang yang tak mampu keluar dari kesedihan setelah putus cinta.

Tetapi berlarut-larut dalam kesedihan juga tak baik. Berikut ini kiat-kiat agar Anda bisa kembali bangkit pasca putus cinta.

1. Melihat ke masa kini
Mengenang masa lalu hanya akan membuat Anda semakin bersedih. Tak ada gunanya terus-menerus menyesal. Lebih baik mulailah melihat ke depan, dan merencanakan kehidupan Anda.

2. Pikirkan hikmahnya
Terus-menerus menyesali diri hanya akan membuat Anda semakin tersiksa. Lebih baik, pikirkan hikmah yang didapat dari hubungan sebelumnya. Seburuk apapun hubungan yang Anda jalani, paling tidak hal itu bisa membuat Anda lebih kuat, dewasa juga bijaksana. Jadi daripada disesali, lebih baik syukuri hikmah dari semuanya.

3. Ikhlas
Sebesar apapun cinta Anda pada seseorang, istilah “jodoh di tangan Tuhan” tidak pernah salah. Ada Tuhan yang menentukan jalan hidup seseorang. Mungkin Anda dan mantan memang tidak berjodoh. Jadi, ikhlaskan semua yang telah terjadi, sehingga ketenangan bisa mengisi hati Anda.

Selamat berbahagia!

5 Hal Pemicu Putus Cinta

Saat berhubungan dengan seorang pria, yang Anda inginkan adalah hubungan yang langgeng dan nyaman. Namun bagaimana jika yang Anda lakukan justru memicu keretakan dan kegagalan?

Tentunya Anda berpikir jangan sampai apa yang Anda lakukan memicu putus cinta. Dan siapa sih yang ingin putus cinta? Tak ada. Sayangnya tak semua orang menyadari bahwa beberapa hal yang dilakukan justru merusak hubungan mereka, seperti hal berikut ini:

Membicarakan keburukan keluarga si dia

Sekalipun tantenya terkenal sebagai sosok yang materialistis,

Anda tidak bisa menjudgenya dengan kata-kata yang buruk dan memojokkan. Biarkan saja ia menceritakan seluruh hal-hal yang terjadi di dalam kehidupan keluarganya. Tak perlu mengeluarkan suatu statement apapun, you just need to listen him.

Menuntut terlalu banyak

"Aku ingin rumah yang besar, menikah di Paris, dan punya dua anak ya beib..."

Kedengarannya romantis bukan? Sayangnya hal itu tak seromantis yang Anda bayangkan lho. Memang manis saat membayangkan menikah dengan si dia di tempat yang Anda inginkan, memiliki rumah dan anak-anak yang lucu-lucu. But, dear... itu justru hanya akan membuat si dia semakin takut dengan status yang Anda tuntut darinya. Toh hubungan kekasih tidak seharusnya membuat orang tertekan dan merasa terburu-buru. Jika si dia memang serius, dan jika waktunya telah tiba, semua akan berjalan seperti sewajarnya kok.

Berbohong kepadanya
Berbohong tidak selalu bisa dibenarkan, untuk tujuan baik sekalipun. Berusahalah untuk jujur dalam setiap hubungan Anda. Tentang keburukan Anda, kekurangan Anda, apa yang telah Anda lakukan, menjadi bukan seseorang yang berpura-pura itu jauh lebih menyenangkan ketimbang harus menyembunyikan sesuatu.

Merajuk
Sesekali memang merajuk adalah hal yang menyenangkan baginya, tetapi jika Anda terus menerus melakukannya pria akan mudah merasa jenuh. Jika Anda ingin dicintai oleh si dia, maka tunjukkan sisi misterius Anda, sesekali merajuk, sesekali tampakkan sisi mandiri.

Selalu ingin tahu tentang privacynya
Ya, benar ladies, termasuk membaca seluruh SMS dan BBM-nya. Apa sih yang perlu Anda khawatirkan darinya, takut ia berselingkuh? Anda tak akan bisa mencegah seorang pria berselingkuh hanya dengan memeriksa seluruh isi pesan di ponselnya, mencium aroma parfumnya atau memata-matai akun jejaring sosialnya. Buatlah ia merasa beruntung memiliki Anda, dan dijamin, tak ada wanita lain yang bisa menyita perhatiannya lagi.

Ok, tak perlu merasa bersalah begitu dong. Anda bisa kok membuat si dia merasa nyaman bersama Anda. Just be yourself, dan lakukan yang terbaik untuk berdua.

Tips Sembuhkan Patah Hati (it might work)

Hal buruk terjadi dalam hidup dan pastinya dalam cinta. Rasa sakit merupakan sebuah sinyal dan memberitahu kita kalau ada yang harus diperbaiki serta diperhatikan. Tanpa rasa sakit, bagaimana kita tahu kalau tubuh perawatan? Misalnya sakit perut, rasa sakit merupakan cara tubuh memberitahu untuk menjaga makanan yang masuk serta makan dengan teratur atau ada yang salah dengan perut kita (obviously). 

Sakit secara emosional juga sama, merupakan cara tubuh memberitahu kalau kita perlu pertolongan. Saat hati kita sakit, dan mempengaruhi keseluruhan hidup kita, artinya waktunya untuk mengobati rasa sakit tersebut. Rasa sakit juga menjadi panduan seperti kompas. Memberitahu bagian mana yang nggak sehat atau merasakan hal yang nggak benar. Yang penting adalah harus jeli mendengarkan “teriakan” atau peringatan yang diberikan tubuh.

Pantangan Setelah Putus Cinta!

Hal wajar jika seseorang yang mengalami putus cinta, melakukan berbagai cara untuk mengurangi rasa sakitnya. Agar rasa sakit tidak semakin parah, sebaiknya cari pelarian yang tepat.

Anda bisa melakukan banyak hal mulai dari berlibur, berbelanja atau hal positif lainnya. Tetapi hindari melakukan tiga hal yang dilansir dari Shine berikut, karena justru akan membuat perasaan sakit hati makin meradang.

1. Terlalu cepat mencari pengganti

Langsung mencari pria lain dan melakukan kencan mungkin terdengar sebagai pelarian yang tepat. Tetapi hal ini hanya akan menyiksa diri sendiri dan orang lain.

Dengan segera berkencan, Anda berarti memaksa diri membuka hati yang baru terluka. Mungkin untuk beberapa saat bisa mengalihkan perhatian, tetapi jika kencan berjalan buruk, Anda justru bisa makin sakit hati dan berisiko menyalahkan diri sendiri yang berujung pada depresi.

2. Menghubungi mantan kekasih

Jika ia yang memutuskan hubungan, itu artinya ia tak ingin lagi bersama atau berhubungan dengan Anda. Jangan menghubunginya melalui SMS, telepon, atau email. Apalagi, berusaha membicarakan kembali hubungan yang sebenarnya sudah berakhir. Apabila Anda memang tidak melakukan kesalahan fatal seperti berselingkuh, berarti memang hubungan Anda dan dia  sudahtak bisa lagi dipertahankan. Berusaha menghubungi atau berbicara dengannya hanya akan membuat Anda makin tenggelam dan terjebak dalam perasaan sakit hati.

3. Menyimpan kenangan

Selama berhubungan, pasti banyak kenangan. Mulai dari foto-foto, SMS mesra, email atau barang-barang yang diberikan padanya. Sebaiknya jangan simpan kenangan tersebut, kalau perlu hapus nomor teleponnya di ponsel, jangan lagi berteman dengannya di situs jejaring sosial seperti Facebook atau Twitter.

Menyimpan kenangan hanya akan membuat Anda mengingat kembali hal manis bersamanya. Hal ini justru akan membuat Anda makin sulit untuk "menyembuhkan" diri. Faktanya, saat putus cinta Anda memang harus merasakan sakit karena hal itu membuat pribadi makin kuat. Jalani tiap rosesnya, mulai dari perasaan sakit, menangis, lalu merefleksi diri, hingga Anda benar-benar siap menjalani hubungan yang baru.

Cantik Gak Harus Mahal

Tak suka masak dan jarang ke dapur? Mungkin setelah Anda membaca tulisan ini, Anda akan berubah pikiran. Pasalnya, banyak benda di dapur Anda yang ternyata bisa membuat kita cantik. Apa saja?

1. Timun
Sari timun sangat baik untuk dijadikan toner bagi Anda yang memiliki kulit berminyak. Atau, campurkan dengan susu, dan jadikan pembersih wajah.

2. Madu
Selain bisa membunuh kuman, madu juga bisa kita campur dengan lotion atau sabun cair untuk membuat kulit jadi ekstrahalus. Campurkan madu dengan susu, jadilah lotion yang akan membuat kulit kita bercahaya.

3. Kol
Bingung dengan jerawat yang selalu saja muncul di wajah? Main saja ke dapur, ambil kol, haluskan, dan jadikan masker pada bagian yang berjerawat. Kandungan asam amino dan vitamin C-nya bisa membantu mengusir jerawat.

4. Bawang putih
Haluskan bawang putih, oleskan sarinya ke wajah selama 5 menit, dan wajah yang berjerawat takkan lagi jadi masalah. Tapi ingat, jangan cukup diamkan 5 menit saja di wajah, karena bila terlalu lama, wajah akan terasa panas,

5. Lemon dan putih telur
Campurkan dua bahan ini dan jadikan masker wajah. Lemon baik untuk Anda yang memiliki kulit berminyak, dan putih telur berfungsi mengencangkan kulit dan mengecilkan pori-pori.

6. Wortel
Jika kulit Anda "dihiasi" noda dan flek-flek hitam, gunakan wortel untuk mengatasinya. Haluskan wortel dan oleskan pada bagian kulit yang berbercak.

Kenali Bahasa Cinta Pasangan

Di dalam kehidupan ada berbagai macam bahasa yang digunakan  untuk berkomunikasi. Namun, untuk dua orang dapat berkomunikasi, keduanya harus mengerti bahasa yang dipergunakan dalam pembicaraan. Cinta pun demikian. Secara garis besar, Dr. Gary Chapman, seorang marriage counselor membagi bahasa cinta ke dalam 5 bahasa. Apa saja kelima bahasa cinta tersebut?

1. Receiving Gifts

Bahasa cinta ini bukanlah materialisme. Seseorang yang memiliki bahasa cinta ini melihat cinta dibalik pemikiran dan usaha pemberi hadiah. Kamu akan merasa dimengerti, diperhatikan, dan dihargai lebih dari segala pengorbanan yang diusahakan oleh si pemberi untuk memberikan hadiah tersebut kepada kamu.

2. Quality Time

Bagi kamu yang berbicara bahasa cinta ini, tidak ada yang lebih membuat kamu merasa dicintai selain “full, undivided attention” dari pasangan. Gangguan seperti pasangan tidak mendengarkan saat kamu bercerita, sibuk menerima telepon atau chatting di Blackberry saat bersama kamu akan membuat kamu merasa di nomor dua-kan. Merasa tidak dicintai.

3. Words of Affirmation Actions

Don’t always speak louder than words. Well, setidaknya tidak bagi kamu yang bahasa cintanya adalah perkataan. Untuk kamu, kata pujian dan ucapan “I love you” akan membuat jiwa kamu seperti naik ke awan-awan. Sebaliknya, kritik atau kata-kata yang pedas akan membuat kamu merasa tersakiti.

4. Acts of Service

Apakah mencuci baju merupakan bahasa cinta? Absolutely! Apa saja yang dilakukan oleh pasangan untuk meringankan beban kamu adalah sebuah ungkapan cinta bagi kamu yang bahasa cintanya adalah “acts of service”. Uluran tangan pasangan adalah hal yang menyentuh hati kamu. Akibatnya, apabila pasangan kamu menolak atau tidak melakukan janjinya untuk membantu kamu, kamu akan merasa perasaan kamu tidak dihargai.

5. Affection

Bahasa kasih ini bukanlah melulu tentang sex. Seseorang dengan bahasa kasih ini merasa disayang saat pasangannya memeluk, memegang tangan, atau mengelus rambutnya dengan tangan. Kamu yang memiliki bahasa cinta yang satu ini akan merasakan keintiman, perasaan disayangi dan dilindungi saat mendapatkan sentuhan. Karena itu, physical presence menjadi penting. Kecuekan dari pasangan atau kekerasan akan sangat menyakiti hati kamu.

Untuk itu, Dr. Gary Chapman menyarankan agar setiap pasangan mencari tahu apa bahasa cinta mereka, dan bahasa cinta pasangannya.  Kamu bisa click di untuk mengetahui bahasa cinta kamu. Ajak pasangan untuk mengisi test yang sama.

Setelah kalian mengetahui bahasa cinta masing-masing, beradaptasilah. Cobalah melakukan hal yang sesuai dengan bahasa cinta pasangan kamu. Ajaklah juga pasangan kamu untuk berbicara cinta pada kamu dengan bahasa cinta kamu. Dengan begitu, kamu dan pasangan sama-sama merasa dicintai. Setuju?

Terjebak HTS!!

Sebagian laki-laki mungkin tidak mau berkomitmen dengan dalih sedang fokus mengejar karirnya, beberapa takut tidak bisamemberikan cukup perhatian karena ada masalah besar yang sedang dihadapi, sampai yang jelas-jelas bilang bahwa dia emotionally unavailable.Tetapi walaupun demikian, dia tetap saja mengajak kamu kencan pada akhir minggu, memberikan kata-kata manis dan tidak jarang memulai physical touch seperti peluk dan cium yang membuat kamu bingung setengah mati. 

Kamu pun kemudian curhat kepada sahabat untuk membahas secara detil dan menganalisa 1001 macam kemungkinan mengapa hubungan kalian tetap belum juga official. Sounds familiar?Guess what, does not matter what excuses he gave you, faktanya simpel. He does NOT want to give his commitment to you. Period.

Ini adalah hasil temuan berdasarkan interview dan ngobrol-ngobrol dengan sekian banyak laki-laki yang pernah menggunakan berbagai macam alasan untuk menghindari komitmen. Mereka semua satusuara dan dengan gamblang menyatakan bahwa it’s just an excuse. Really? Menurut para laki-laki, pada waktu mereka yakin bahwa kamu adalah sosok yang tepat, mereka akan berusaha supaya kamu jadi miliknya, dan bahkan ingin the whole world knows you’re with him. 

NagaTweet Bareng Caffeine!!(y)

Setelah meluncurkan 3 album, seolah-olah Caffeine tenggelam. Menurut Rudi (vokalis), ada beberapa sebab kenapa Caffeine jarang terlihat selama hampir dua setengah tahun. “Mungkin karena Caffeine lebih sering tampil di panggung-panggung off air. Kita tetap eksis,” ujar Rudi. Kini Caffein merilis single religi yang berjudul Bersyukurlah. Mau tahu apa saja obrolan Caffeine dengan Nagaswara melalui Twitter? Berikut petikannya!

#NagaTweet Q: Bagaimana kabar nya niy brader2 Caffeine?? Masih lancar kan puasanya?
#NagaTweet A: Alhamdulillah..lancar..

Tumis Cuciwis Bumbu Tauco

Bahan:
250 g cuciwis, cuci bersih
150 g daging udang, cincang kasar
4 sdm minyak goreng
1 sendok sayur air

Bumbu:
5 siung bawang putih, cincang kasar
3 buah cabe merah, iris halus
1 sdm tauco
1 sdm saus tiram

Tips Wawancara Kerja

Dalam proses seleksi melamar pekerjaan, wawancara sering kali dianggap mudah. Namun dalam sesi wawancara beberapa orang gagal mendapatkan pekerjaan yang didambakannya. Untuk itu sesi wawancara harus dipersiapkan dengan sunguh-sungguh.

Berikut tips rahasia sukses wawancara saat melamar pekerjaan:

5 Langkah Mengatasi Kulit Berminyak

Selain rentan jerawat, kulit berminyak juga mengganggu karena membuat wajah terlihat mengilap dan make-up pun tak bertahan lama. Lalu apa yang bisa kita lakukan untuk meminimalisir minyak pada kulit wajah?

1. Cuci muka dengan sabun maksimal tiga kali sehari
Dua kali saja sebenarnya sudah cukup, setelah bangun tidur dan sebelum pergi tidur. Jika dirasa perlu, silakan cuci muka di tengah hari. Gunakan sabun muka atau pembersih wajah yang tidak berbahan dasar krim. Hindari susu pembersih karena akan membuat kulit makin berminyak. Hindari pula terlalu sering mencuci muka, karena kulit malah akan jadi kering dan membuat kelenjar memproduksi lebih banyak minyak.

Manfaat Buah Apel Untuk Kecantikan

Ada ungkapan yang mengatakan "An apple a day keeps the doctor away", dengan makan sebuah apel sehari, kita tidak perlu lagi ke dokter. Pendapat ini ada benarnya juga. Tapi tahukan Anda ternyata apel tak hanya bermanfaat bagi kesehatan, tapi juga bagi kecantikan kulit.

Untuk mendapatkan kulit idaman, Karen Behnke, pendiri kosmetik Juice Beauty dari San Rafael, California, memberikan resep masker andalannya untuk dicoba.

Mitos tentang Jerawat

Mitos-mitos di dunia kecantikan banyak berkembang di masyarakat. Namun tak sedikit pula mitos yang tidak terbukti kebenarannya. Berikut tiga mitos mengenai timbulnya jerawat serta kebenarannya.

Dikutip dari Genius Beauty, kebenaran ketiga mitos diungkap. Berikut penjelasannya.

"Jerawat timbul karena kulit kotor" -> Fakta.
Kotoran yang dibiarkan menempel di pori-pori kulit memang terbukti dapat menimbulkan masalah kulit termasuk jerawat. Oleh karena itu, biasakanlah mencuci muka dengan sabun yang sesuai jenis kulit dua kali sehari.

omong kosong

kamu bilang udah gak ada rasa
kamu bilang udah gak mau ketemu
kamu bilang udah gak mau berhubungan lagi
tapi kenyataannya??
omongan sama apa yang dilakuin gak sama!
ngapain coba pake janji2 segala
yang lebih bodoh lagi orang yang percaya sama janji kamu
percaya sama semua omong kosong kamu
ditambah omongan orang tentang kebaikan dan kelebihan kamu
makin percaya aja kalo kamu itu orang yang baik
dan gak mungkin bakal nyakiti perasaan
obral janji itu gampang!tapi praktekin itu yang susah!

Wow! Kencing 'Berdiri' Efektif Cegah Kanker

Kanker serviks adalah musuh utama kaum perempuan. Karenanya berbagai upaya pencegahan dilakukan di antaranya melalui sebuah metode 'standing pee'. Benarkah?

Sejauh ini, oleh Ikatan Dokter Indonesia (IDI) mendeteksi awal adanya penyakit kanker serviks bisa dilakukan dengan dua cara, yakni pap smear dan vaksin. Ternyata, ada cara lain dan sedikit unik yang bisa mencegah timbulnya kanker serviks, yaitu standing pee atau kencing berdiri.

Menurut pakar kesehatan, dr Ananto Sidohutomo MARS menyebutkan pilihan kencing berdiri ini tidak hanya berguna mencegah kanker.

Tapi juga memungkinkan setiap wanita mendapat prasarana membuang air kecil secara higienis, nyaman, dan meminimalkan penggunaan sanitasi dan air yang banyak ditemukan bakteri, jamur, parasit, dan virus.

"Pencegahan bisa dilakukan dari sisi apa saja. Untuk mencegah dan mengantisipasi kanker serviks, ada kartu skor deteksi dini kanker serviks, ada pap-smear, ada vaksinasi HPV, ada valeri, dan'standing pee' ,"kata Ananto.

Posisi kencing, kata dr Ananto, mempengaruhi aliran rembesan urin ke vagina. Menurut dr. Ananto, urin bukan cairan yang bersih. Urin termasuk sisa metabolisme tubuh yang membuang zat-zat tidak berguna di tubuh.

Bila sisa urin mengendap di vagina maka akan menganggu kebersihannya.

"Ingat, faktor tidak bersih juga memicu munculnya kanker serviks. Sedangkan dengan posisi berdiri, urin akan memancar keluar dari lubang uretra tanpa mengendap di bagian vagina," ungkap dr. Ananto.

Manfaat Buah Stoberi

Stroberi, buah yang sangat menggugah selera dan menyegarkan untuk di konsumsi. Rasanya yang segar membuat banyak orang jatuh hati dengan buah yang sangat popular ini, baik dari anak-anak sampai orang dewasa. Stroberi memang buah yang sangat sering di pakai sebagai bahan olahan berbagai jenis makanan dan minuman. Tapi ternyata stroberi ini sangat bermanfaat untuk kesehatan, jadi selain rasanya manis dan segar khasiatnya pun cukup manis untuk kesehatan kita.

Berikut beberapa manfaat dari buah yang sangat menggoda satu ini :

Membakar Lemak

Dengan takaran yang sama, ternyata stroberi memberikan Angka Kecukupan Gizi untuk vitamin C lebih banyak 15% di banding jeruk. Vitamin C ini akan memacu pengeluaran toksin penimbun lemak dari dalam tubuh lewat getah bening. Selain itu vitamin C juga dapat membantu tubuh mensintesa Carnitine, sejenis senyawa yang mempercepat pembakaran lemak sampai 25%.

Mengurangi Bintik Hitam akibat Sinar Matahari

Stroberi mengandung ellagic acid sejenis zat yang dapat menekan pengeluaran melanin tubuh, pigmen yang secara normal di produksi sebagai respons terhadap sinar Ultra Violet. Kandungan manganese dalam stroberi dapat mempercepat regenerasi sel sehingga dapat memudarkan setiap bekas atau bintik hitam.

Menjaga Kesehatan Gigi

Stroberi ternyata dapat meningkatkan ketahanan tubuh untuk mencegah gigi berlubang sampai 33%, stroberi kaya akan Xylitol yaitu gula alcohol antimikroba yang dapat memberantas bakteri S.mutans penyebab gigi berlubang. Kandungan malic acid dalam stroberi juga dapat melarutkan noda di permukaan gigi, sehingga membuat gigi lebih putih.

Manis bukan manfaatnya ^^,

Buah Anggur Lindungi Kulit Dari Kanker

Buah anggur dikenal sebagai buah yang bermanfaat bagi kesehatan pencernaan. Namun selain itu ternyata buah anggur juga bermanfaat untuk menyehatkan kulit Anda.
Para ilmuwan dari Universitas Barcelona dan Spanyol Dewan Riset Nasional membuktikan, bahwa zat yang disebut flavonoid yang diekstrak dari buah anggur dapat mencegah pembentukan sel kanker yang terkena sinar ultraviolet dari matahari.
"Ini hasil yang menggembirakan dan harus dipertimbangkan sebagai bahan untuk mengembangkan produk perlindungan kulit," ujar Marta Cascante ahli biokimia di University of Barcelona dan direktur proyek penelitian ini.
"Kosmetik dan obat yang mengandung senyawa anggur sudah tersedia, tapi cara mereka bertindak pada sel-sel belum dipahami dengan baik sampai sekarang," kata Marta.